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rabbleprochoice:

ihatethismess:

Have you ever referred to a child’s future spouse in heterosexist ways?  It is quite common when speaking to boy to talk about their future wife or girlfriend, as if that is the natural course of events.  We may teach our children that all people are equal but if we take the position of assumed heterosexuality when relating to them, in actuality we are sending a completely different message.

I don’t know about this. Honestly I was subjected to all the same things and I never grew up with a trace of homophobia.

But my situation may be unique. Until I was five my only neighbors were a gay couple. And past that my favorite Uncle is gay. It wasn’t until I neared puberty that I began to suspect that my uncles (and neighbors) might not have just really liked each other. And despite the fact that I’d been taught I’d grow up and marry a nice boy and that boys and girls have sex I never felt anything but ‘Oh. Okay. That makes sense’.

I think the question is simply a case of practicing what you tell your children, not what you teach them is normal. Statistically, most children will be straight. I think what’s truly important is that we teach our children that people who aren’t like us are not to be feared. They are our neighbors, uncles and friends. I think what tipped it for me is it was always there, never hidden.

Keep in mind also that only ten percent of our population is homosexual. When you speak to a male child about his future wife, the odds favor you. I don’t think that moderating the way we talk about a child’s future spouse is really going to get to the heart of the issue of homosexual marriage at all. It’s going to confuse the issue with a matter that’s honestly superficial.

The real matter is ensuring that your children are educated with an eye towards “homosexuality isn’t something to be feared and hated; people who are different from us are to be accepted and loved for who they are.” I was raised in an environment where homosexuality was considered unnatural and vile, but the lessons that I learned from that weren’t about homosexuals (who have always been lovely to me, as a generalization), but about fear and irrational hatred.

Teach your children to accept difference. Everything else is secondary.

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