Marriage
This is a post about my personal life. If you hate my personal life (and many people do), don’t read it. ^_^
My good friend Calvin posted a note on Facebook the other day, and it was all about why women lose interest in men. The note is pretty good. If he gets me a link to some non-Facebook source, I’ll post it here. I didn’t so much want to reply to the note so much as a different thing I’ve been thinking about: marriage.
See, I don’t really have an issue with women losing interest in me. When they’re hooked, they’re pretty well hooked. Something about me screams “long-term-relationship,” and so I tend to be a serial long-termer. No, my issues with marriage come from a different direction.
For those who don’t know, I’m polyamorous. I believe that people are capable of romantically loving more than one person at a time. In fact, the more the merrier. For practical reasons, I top out at about three girlfriends at a time; anything more than that becomes very difficult to schedule. My girlfriends also see other people.
Because of this, and because of the don’t-ask-don’t-tell policy that keeps my whole crazy social construct held together, marriage is a bit of a tricky topic for me. To be honest, I’m not entirely sure how I would pull it off. Conceivably, I could have three houses, three wives (though not legally married, because in Canada that’s still illegal). But really, that’s ten pounds problems, and I’ve only got a two-pound bag. Just the financial aspect of living in three different accomodations based on each family’s needs would be ridiculous. Paying half the rent on one place is murder enough. The rent on three? Insanity.
Living all together is an option, assuming I can do away with the don’t-ask-don’t-tell rule and have everyone live happilly together. Still, the more members you put into any given family, the more drama one can expect from it. And since I’ve always been equal-opportunity on my polygamy, I couldn’t expect my wives to keep to only a single husband. The living quarters would need to be huge!
Having my own place but being “married” to three people living in different arrangements is an option, but hardly feels like marriage. It would be tough to raise any sort of a family in an environment like that, and that’s really the point of getting married for me.
Any suggestions?
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